Deadweight: Cut It Before It Sinks You
Deadweight isn’t just an inconvenience, it’s a silent anchor. It appears in friendships, family, workplaces, and, worst of all, intimate relationships. On the surface, these people look different, but their behavior never changes. They are always the same: they drain, they sabotage, and they destroy.
Deadweight always needs someone else to do the work for them. They are talentless but entitled, lazy but jealous. They attach themselves to people with drive, light, and ambition because they have none of their own. They believe that simply being near you will allow your success to rub off on them. And if it doesn’t, they’ll sabotage you to keep you from rising above them.
They don’t just want to know your business, they want to control it. They want access to your plans, your dreams, and your next move. If they can’t go where you’re going, they’ll find a way to burn the bridge. Deadweight hates accountability, yet demands forgiveness. They won’t take action to fix their own lives but will spend enormous energy trying to ruin yours.
I’ve seen it in friendships, in family, and in the workplace. But nothing compares to when you’re intimate with a deadweight. That’s when the manipulation and sabotage cut the deepest. When you share yourself with someone like that, you’re not just giving them your time, you’re handing them access to your energy, your peace, your opportunities, and your dreams.
I know because I’ve lived it.
Months ago, I cut off a deadweight at work. This person had made it their mission to block my opportunities, take credit for my work, and drain my energy. When I refused to give them access to me, they tried everything: burdening me with extra work, sending people to gather information, even following me around to force interaction.
Eventually, they succeeded in having me removed from my position. But instead of freeing themselves, they became obsessed. Even now, they attempt to find out what I’m doing and where I’m going next. In their mind, I am the key to their success, the person who can pull them out of the pit they dug for themselves.
But here’s the truth: I owe them nothing.
The door is closed. The cord is cut. My energy is back with me. I don’t share my plans, my blessings, or my opportunities with anyone. I’ve learned the power of silence, and I’ve learned to protect myself from people who want to siphon my light.
Deadweight cannot thrive without someone else’s energy, but once you cut it off, they have no power over you. They may try to follow, to manipulate, or to intimidate, but they can’t succeed. They may haunt your name, but they cannot touch your destiny.
To the deadweight in my life, and to anyone reading this who sees themselves in my story:
You can do everything in your power to destroy me.
You can sabotage, manipulate, and plot.
But I will never return.
I will never give you my energy again.
I want nothing to do with you because you are unsuccessful, and your success will never come from me.
I am free of you.
And you will have no power over me.
Deadweight can only sink you if you agree to carry it. Let go. Protect your energy. Reclaim your life. And watch how quickly your blessings flow when you’re no longer dragging what was never meant to go with you.
